Our current generation is never short of marriage dramas. Gone are the days when marriages who would be long-lasting. Marriage is no longer an important rite of passage as it used to be in the past. Divorcing has become the order of the day. A shocking trend has emerged, whereby couples divorce just after a few months of marriage.
Here are some of the common causes of divorce in Kenya.
It is definitely the major reason why couples divorce. This generally entails having a short term or long term extramarital affairs (mpango wa Kando). This may be a result of differences in sexual desires and intimacy.
2. Domestic violence/ abuse
Unknown to many, domestic violence affects both men and women. Domestic violence may be physical, emotional, or verbal. In Kenya, the most common form of domestic violence is physical. It mostly affects women who find it hard to tolerate physical abuse or any form of violence. They, therefore, opt to file for divorce just to save their lives.
3. Lack of intimacy
Intimacy is the general feeling of closeness and openness towards someone. It not only entails sexuality but can also be physical or emotional intimacy. It is never advisable to give your spouse or partner the cold shoulder. This may lead to loneliness which in turn causes your marriage to crumble and eventually lead to divorce.
It is usually everyone’s dream to have children at some point in life. In fact, procreation is one of the biggest reasons for marriage in Kenya today. Cracks in marriages usually begin when one partner is unable to conceive children. Interestingly, infertility issues are usually directed towards women, ignoring the fact that reproductive issues could be from either the man or woman. Infertility issues may cause frustrations in marriages. One may decide to walk out of his/her marriage to find a suitable partner just for the purpose of procreation.
5. Monetary issues/financial challenges
Marriages can crumble due to different financial goals and spending habits between couples. In most instances, money causes power struggles, especially where one partner makes more money than the other. In other instances, people opt out of their marriages when they feel that their spouses can’t sustain their lifestyles.
6. Alcohol and drug abuse
A majority of drug abusers are known to spend all their income and savings to satisfy their addictions. This depletes all the resources that they would otherwise have used to cater for the needs of their families. Drug abuse may also lead to frequent wrangles and domestic violence that may force one to seek for divorce, just to save his/her life. Drug abuse is actually a serious issue that needs to be looked into before it causes extreme consequences